How to Make a Girl Cum

April 23, 2024

4 mins

We’ve all learned in sex ed classes how men and women are anatomically different. But maybe the explainer on how exactly men and women feel pleasure wasn’t available to you. 

During sex, it’s easy to be selfish and consider the job done once you’ve finished. But if you want your female partner to feel pleasure in your sexual moments together, you’ve got to know how to give her an orgasm. 

Don’t get us wrong, that can be extremely awkward and it can even feel emasculating to not know how your girl likes it. If you think about it, sex is just like anything else: you have to try new things to get good at it, be able to collaborate with your partner, and practice – a lot!

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Learn Her Body

Female orgasms are different from male orgasms for several reasons. They can be clitoral, vaginal, cervical, or even a combination of the three. Women can have ejaculatory orgasms, but not all women – and not all orgasms – do. 

For some women, reaching orgasm can come easily, and for others, it requires a bit more work. 

Every woman is different and the way in which she feels pleasure is most likely going to be different from other women you’ve slept with. That’s why you should try to learn (early on) what works for your current partner, instead of relying on old techniques. 

Talk to Her

Talking to your partner can be extremely helpful in the bedroom. Whether it’s asking for consent or some good old fashioned dirty talk, communicating in bed can help you and your partner feel at ease and confident.

For instance, telling your partner how much you love a certain move or expressing your admiration for their body can enhance the connection between you two. 

Always check in with your partner to ensure they are comfortable and enjoying themselves. Phrases like "Is this okay?" or "Do you like that?" can make a world of difference. These simple questions can open up the dialogue to ensure the way you’re touching your partner or the position you’re in feels good.

Dirty talk can add an exciting element to your sexual encounters. Experiment with phrases that turn both of you on, such as "You feel amazing," or "I love it when you..." 

Remember, open and honest communication fosters trust, builds intimacy, and paves the way for unforgettable experiences in the bedroom.

Engage in Foreplay

Typically, men can reach orgasm earlier than women. A lot of times this is due to the fact that women need some extra warming up in the bedroom to get them aroused. 

That’s why foreplay is essential for many women to achieve orgasm. It helps to prepare both the mind and body for sexual activity. 

Foreplay allows for increased arousal and lubrication, making penetration more comfortable and enjoyable. It also helps to build anticipation and excitement, which can enhance the overall sexual experience.

For women especially, arousal is a complex process that involves both physical and psychological factors. 

Foreplay can stimulate erogenous zones, such as the clitoris, breasts, and neck, which are key areas for many women's sexual pleasure. This stimulation can help to increase blood flow to these areas, making them more sensitive and responsive to touch.

Foreplay also allows couples to connect on an emotional level, fostering intimacy and trust. Taking the time to explore each other's bodies and communicate desires can strengthen the bond between partners and create a more fulfilling sexual experience.

In essence, foreplay sets the stage for a more pleasurable and satisfying sexual encounter by increasing arousal, enhancing sensitivity, and building intimacy.

Prioritize Her

In a lot of heterosexual relationships, intercourse ends when the man finishes. If this is typically the case for you during sex, you may want to switch things up a bit. 

Start off by touching or going down on your partner so that she finishes first, if you know that she doesn’t normally orgasm during intercourse. This way, you both can still feel pleasure during penetrative sex, but she’ll have already orgasmed. 

Try Out Different Positions

There are countless sex positions you can try that’ll help your lady reach climax. There are some classics like missionary, doggy style, cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, spooning, and even standing. 

Some of these positions may feel better for you, while others may really get your partner going. Take turns playing around with positions and adjusting within them so both of you are feeling good at all times.

But no matter what position you choose, the way you move together (back and forth, circular motions, bouncing, slow, fast, etc.) and any additional tricks you may have up your sleeve are really what’s important.

Explore Techniques

While stimulation to the clitoris and G-spot are the traditional approaches to making your female partner orgasm, exploring different parts of her body may help you (and her!) get there.  

When using your fingers or tongue to stimulate her, try moving in different directions and at different speeds. Experiment with different finger movements, such as tapping, stroking, or curling your fingers or tongue inside the vagina. Varying the pressure, speed, and rhythm can help you find what feels best for your partner.

Listen to her and read her body language (moans ot heavy breathing) to find out what’s working, and then continue doing it for a while to maintain a rhythm. 

You can also try using both your fingers and your tongue at the same time for added arousal, or to hit multiple erogenous zones at once. 

Don't forget about the nipples! Gentle biting, licking, or sucking on the nipples can be a turn-on for many women and can enhance overall arousal.

Massaging other erogenous zones, such as the inner thighs, lower abdomen, or back, can help relax your partner and increase overall arousal.

Use Lube

Using lube can make sex way better for everyone involved. It helps things glide smoothly and can make everything feel more comfortable and enjoyable. If you or your partner ever feel dry or uncomfortable during sex, lube can really help reduce friction and make things feel great.

For women, lube can be especially helpful if there's any vaginal dryness, making penetration smoother and less likely to cause any discomfort. Plus, it can add some extra excitement and sensation, making everything feel even better. There are even lubes that give off different sensations, like warmth or coolness. 

Using lube is also a good idea if you're using condoms. It can reduce the chance of the condom breaking, which is important for protecting against STIs and unplanned pregnancies.

When picking a lube, make sure to choose one that works with what you're doing, like water-based lube for condoms and toys. Just keep in mind that oil-based lubes don't mix well with latex condoms. 

So, whether you're trying to make things more comfortable, exciting, or safe, lube can be a game-changer in the bedroom.

Experiment with Toys

Vibrators and dildos aren’t just for girls to use in their alone time. Integrating sex toys into your relationship can really bring the heat in ways you never imagined. 

And don’t worry, toys aren’t there because you’re not doing the job right, they’re there for added fun, excitement, and pleasure. 

Besides the toys mentioned above, there are other devices that could also help you help a woman orgasm:

• Vibrating cock ring: This toy is designed to be worn around the base of the penis during intercourse. The vibrating sensation can provide clitoral stimulation for the partner and may enhance pleasure for both.

• Couples' vibrator: These are designed to be used during intercourse, offering both clitoral and internal stimulation. Some are designed to be worn by the woman, providing hands-free stimulation for her.

• Remote-controlled vibrator: These vibrators can be controlled via a remote, allowing one partner to control the vibrations while the other enjoys the sensations. It can add an element of surprise and excitement to your play.

• Anal toys: Anal beads, butt plugs, and anal vibrators can be enjoyable for couples looking to explore anal.

• Wand Massagers: These powerful vibrators are versatile and can be used for both external and internal stimulation. They can be used during foreplay or intercourse.

Don’t Let PE Hold You Back

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a condition where a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. It's a common sexual complaint, affecting about 1 in 3 men at some point in their lives.

While it’s usually nothing to be too concerned about, it can really put a damper on your evening. Feelings of embarrassment might make you want to stop altogether, but this often leaves the female partner unfinished. Be sure to satisfy your partner with the tips discussed above, even if you experience PE.

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Be Enthusiastic 

Being fully present in the moment and letting your partner know you're excited to be with them can instill confidence and security in your partner during your sexual experience.

Avoid going down on her just to cross it off your "to-do" list because you know it'll make her climax. She'll notice, and it might make it more challenging for her to orgasm.

Women often have concerns about how their bodies look, smell, and taste, as well as what they enjoy in bed and how long it takes them to climax. There's no need to add to those insecurities.

Instead of reluctantly agreeing to go down on her or use her favorite toy, show genuine enthusiasm.

Because when you approach intimacy with enthusiasm, you'll witness her pleasure, hear her moans, and feel her reactions. You'll have the opportunity to pleasure her in a way she's never experienced before, giving her an unforgettable orgasm!

Be Confident

Confidence is key in the bedroom and being secure in your abilities can really turn your partner on. This doesn’t mean you have to always know what you’re doing. Just being present and aware of your partner’s desires can really spark some heat in the bedroom and give the impression that you’re a pro. 

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