How To Stay Hard After You Come While Having Sex

November 22, 2021

Natural biological processes occur when the male body prepares for sex. The first step is for a man to be sexually arousal. To achieve an erection that's firm enough for sex, men have to experience mental and/or sensory stimulation. This causes more blood to flow into the penis than normal leading to an erection.

The second part is engaging in sexual activity with an erection. Whatever the nature of your sexual activities, guys require continued stimulation to stay erect. At the end of sexual intercourse, men reach climax, experience an orgasm, and ejaculate. As the erection fades, the penis returns to normal, followed by a refractory period where it may be harder to get another erection.

There are a few techniques that may help you stay hard even after an orgasm. It’s a different story after ejaculation has occurred, but there are a few ways you can reduce the time it takes to get hard again.  

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Can You Stay Hard After Having an Orgasm? 

There's an important distinction between an orgasm and ejaculation. Although they're typically experienced at or around the same moment, they're two different physiological processes. An orgasm is the feeling of intense pleasure that's the result of reaching sexual climax, whereas, ejaculation is the physical expulsion of seminal fluids from the penis. 

It’s technically possible for you to experience an orgasm without ejaculating. A technique known as semen retention is a common practice for men who engage in tantric sex. It can be difficult to learn this technique and requires intentional practice. It involves stopping sexual intercourse right before you ejaculate and starting up again.

One of the easiest ways to stay harder longer is to activate, strengthen, and train your pelvic floor muscles. By engaging in these so-called Kegel exercises and learning to control your flow of urine when peeing, you can become more aware of the muscles involved in ejaculation. If you're able to stop from expelling semen during sex you may be able to experience a “dry orgasm” and continue to stay erect. 

Another technique is called edging. Again, edging requires discipline and some practice to perfect. Basically, pay close attention to your body in the 20 seconds before you ejaculate. Become familiar with this feeling, and as you recognize this sensation during sex or intimacy, try stopping all stimulation. This is intended to prevent ejaculation and allow you to stay erect to continue having sex. 

With enough practice, you'll find you may be able to go up to the point of ejaculation, and then stop. This is intended to prolong sex, with the near-pleasure of an orgasm without the finality of ejaculation. 

What Happens After You Ejaculate? 

The process of achieving an erection is essentially reversed after you’ve reached climax and ejaculated. 

Your heart rate and breathing begin to slow to their normal rates. The tension in your muscles dissipates and they begin to relax. The blood flow to the penis slows down as your erection begins to soften. It’s common to feel sleepy or relaxed after ejaculation due to the release of "feel-good" hormones.

The official term for this post-ejaculation time is the refractory period. Although there's much to be learned about the refractory period, we know a few things about the body's response.

• It’s during this time that your body begins to recover from sexual excitement. 

• During this time, it can be more challenging to respond to sexual stimulation.

• It's also difficult to orgasm again until after the refractory period.

• The duration of the refractory period can vary between individuals. This is one aspect of sex and climax that researchers haven't fully elucidated yet. 

Researchers have concluded, however, that age does play a factor in the length of the refractory period. For younger men, it’s not uncommon for their refractory period to be over within 15 minutes and erections become possible again. For older men, it can take several hours to be fully recovered before engaging in sex again.

Can You Shorten the Refractory Period?

There is some scientific evidence to suggest that using Viagra® (sildenafil) can help to reduce the refractory period in men. 

Viagra is a phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5) inhibitor. It works by helping to keep blood vessels dilated and more blood flowing into the penis.

It blocks an enzyme that normally reduces blood flow and instead keeps blood flowing into the penis at an increased rate even after sex.

A man must be aroused for Viagra to be effective. That can be difficult if you've just ejaculated and are in a refractory period, but because of Viagra's mechanism, it can help guys maintain an erection for longer. Viagra is the most popular erectile dysfunction medication, almost all of which are in the same class of PDE5 inhibitors, including Cialis (tadalafil) and Levitra (vardenafil). 

How Rex MD Can Help

Although often considered the same thing, experiencing an orgasm and ejaculating are not identical. A few techniques can help you enjoy multiple orgasms during sex and stay hard the entire time.

However, once you've ejaculated, your body will enter into a refractory period and it may take time before you can become erect again.

When you can reach an erection again after sex can vary depending on age and physical fitness. Since erectile dysfunction medications such as Viagra (sildenafil) have a significant impact on blood flow, it’s possible that taking Viagra may help to reduce the refractory period. 

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