Senior Sex Guide: Tips for Older Men

May 14, 2024

4 mins

If you’re nearing (or you’ve already arrived to) your golden years, you’ve got a lot of life left to look forward to. You may notice your body starting to slow or that you’re not able to do everything you once were capable of. As frustrating as that may be, it’s a natural part of aging and you shouldn’t be discouraged or ashamed about it.

How your body changes as you gain years can affect your sex life. So we're here to help explain the factors that contribute to these changes, as well as some ways to keep it interesting in the bedroom after all those years. 

How Age Affects Sex

Getting older means changes to the body happen gradually over time and sometimes even suddenly. Typically we think of these changes to be apparent. Wrinkles, hunched shoulders, and moving slower are all signs that we associate with aging. But many changes happen without us even seeing them, even though we may eventually notice them. 

Physical changes

Aging can bring about physical changes that affect sexual function – such as decreased blood flow to the genitals – which can result in erectile dysfunction in men. This is typically due to the increased risk of certain health conditions that affect the cardiovascular system. These include:

• Heart disease

• High cholesterol

• Diabetes

• High blood pressure

These conditions – as well as the medications that may be prescribed to someone diagnosed with said condition – may affect a man’s ability to achieve and maintain an erection. 

Hormonal changes – such as a decline in testosterone – can also impact sexual urges and libido.

Additionally, age-related conditions like arthritis or other chronic illnesses can impact flexibility and mobility, potentially affecting sexual positions and comfort.

Mental changes

Aging can bring about psychological changes having to do with self image and how they feel in their relationship.  

Changes in physical appearance and functioning that come with aging can impact body image and self-confidence and affect sexual desire and enjoyment. A negative body image can lead to avoidance of sexual activity or dissatisfaction during sexual encounters.

Relationship dynamics, communication problems, unresolved conflicts, and emotional distance between partners can also contribute to sexual difficulties.

How to Keep Your Sex Life Alive After 70

When you’ve been with your partner for what seems like most of your life, you may fall into a monotonous routine during sex. If you’re looking to spice things up, we’ve got some tips to help – you’re never too old to make a change!

Lube up

Sexual function difficulties aren't exclusive to men. Women also undergo hormonal shifts as they age that may result in vaginal dryness. This can diminish sexual pleasure for both partners. 

Fortunately, addressing this form of sexual dysfunction typically involves simple solutions like patience, support, and the use of lubricants.

Foreplay doesn’t need to be solely sexual

While touching each other before intercourse can get you physically and mentally prepared to have intercourse, foreplay can be much more than that. 

Learn new tricks 

Both you and your partner are aging, so you’re both adjusting to how sex changes once you’ve hit a certain age. You’re probably not showcasing all the moves you once had up your sleeve, but that doesn’t mean you can’t keep enjoying sex. 

Experiment with sex toys – such as vibrators, massagers, and sex pillows – to help compensate and facilitate sex. Try positions that require less mobility – like spooning or sitting on top of each other – or get creative by modifying the positions you’ve always enjoyed.

Stay safe

You may think that practicing safe sex should only be applied to reckless teens and young adults, but even older people can get STDs. Be sure to use condoms when having sex with multiple partners to prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases and infections.

Keep it simple

If you're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of what's needed for a fulfilling sex life, it's okay to take a breather. Forget about feeling pressured to have sex frequently or having to move like you did when you were 20. 

Focus on what brings you joy, and don't compare yourself to others. Sex isn't a competition; it's about teamwork and mutual satisfaction in your relationship with your partner. Talk to your partner about what’s working and what may need some extra work. 

ED pills

If getting it up is what’s holding you back in the bedroom, erectile medication may be an effective solution. Men of all ages can experience ED, but it’s far more common in older men because of underlying health issues. 

But worry not! Rex MD helps men of all ages access ED medications like Viagra and Cialis – so you never have to worry about under-performing in the bedroom. 

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